Don't Lose The Fire

       It doesn't matter if you have been married for two years or twenty nine years, both individuals have to do what is needed to continue to make their mate happy.  More often than not, married couples get complacent in their efforts to maintain the fire in the relationship. Married couples get married and then think they have arrived at the ultimate destination of happiness.  To their surprise, getting married was the easy part it is the efforts needed to maintain a sustained state of happiness that makes the married journey a lifelong commitment of work and unselfishness.  Becoming complacent in a marriage is dangerous, it causes the individual to take their mate for granted and stop doing the things that made your mate feel loved, respected,  and secure from the beginning.

     Just because you get married does not mean you are suppose to stop dating each other.  What happened to the surprise gift that you use to send on her job.  Where did the lingerie go, you haven't bought anything sexy to wear since your honeymoon.  Being ungrateful is a sin.  What you did to get them to marry you should be the same thing that keeps you happily married for years to come.

     Get back to the small simple things that gave your relationship that connection and fire.  Start your date night back and go out and enjoy each  other.  Recreation is important, do inexpensive things together. Take evening walks together around your neighborhood.  Go bowling, skating, or to your favorite sports game.  Marriage is work and you have to put in endless hours of effort to maintain your happiness together.  Remember whatever you sow that is what you will reap.